Everyone has a vision for their life. Some visions are more clear than others, some are more exuberant, some live and breathe their vision, while others just dream about it. Doesn’t matter which column you fall in, what’s important is that you have one.
What if I told you there was a big ole secret that has kept you from living the life that you want? What if I told you that the secret is so simple and boring that you’re going to doubt everything I say? The only downside to knowing this secret is that if your life continues to be crappy and fall short of what you want it to be…you will only have yourself to blame. This may sound harsh but once you have the tools, it’s up to you to make a change. Only you can change your reality, only you can go after the things you want and need, only you can change yourself from the inside out. So if you’re ready for the responsibility, that is this secret, than keep reading. If not, than turn away now and continue wondering why you’re stuck and always falling short of where you want to be.
So what’s the secret?
RAISE YOUR STANDARDS
I am astonished at the low standards we have as human beings. I don’t know what has changed and why the shift but it is embarrassing, to be honest. I don’t mean we should have higher standards for others. It’s easy to sit on our high horse complaining that everyone is treating us badly, nobody is doing what we want and bla bla bla. Those are excuses to keep us from actually working on ourselves…because that’s hard. It’s hard to look inside and do internal work. But if we don’t, than we will literally spend the rest of our lives whining and complaining about things we can’t control. Waste of oxygen if you ask me.
So what do I mean when I say, “raise your standards?”
I want you to raise your standards for yourself. You should expect more out of yourself, you should demand more from yourself, you should raise the bar higher for yourself, and you should be unwilling to settle for your mediocre self. You see, this isn’t about others because once we have higher standards we won’t be surrounding ourselves with the wrong people.
My biggest pet peeve, I hear from people my own age, is when they say, “There’s no good guys/girls left in the world.” This is absolute crap and just an excuse. It’s because we have such low standards for ourselves that relationships are failing at a high rate. Because we are so lazy we get lazy partners. Because we think so little of ourselves, we allow others to treat us like crap. I am shocked at the amount of people who stay in horrible relationships for zero reasons. They can’t even stand each other but it’s easier than moving their stuff out and relocating. I mean seriously, how messed up is this. We would rather allow someone to verbally abuse us, not appreciate us and devalue our self worth than move on.
Obviously, it’s not always as easy as typing words and I get that but you can’t change your life if you don’t have higher standards for yourself, plain and simple.
You want your dream job than demand yourself to work harder. Make yourself dress better and act better. Work harder than anyone else in your company, work after hours, go to every event you can, DO THE THINGS NO ONE ELSE IS WILLING TO DO, and demand that from yourself and I promise your career will change.
You want a better partner? Stop wasting another second of your time with someone that you know it isn’t going to work with. Spend your single days working on yourself instead of scrolling Tindr. Instead of constantly “seeing whats out there” take time to be the person you want in a relationship. You want someone to see you for more than your body and looks, than stop only looking at someone else for their body and looks. You want loyalty, than be the most loyal person on earth and surround yourself with only those who are just as fiercely loyal. You want someone who is encouraging and uplifting to you, than take time to encourage yourself, uplift yourself and when people tear you down…move on and find a group of people who will support you.
This isn’t about being lazy and finding other lazy people to encourage you. This is about settling for nothing less than awesomeness from yourself. We all have serious power within us. We all have skills and talents and unique gifts that we were put on this earth to share. Don’t let the world miss out on you. Make sure the earth is blessed because you are in it and don’t be afraid to share yourself with the world.
Raising your standards doesn’t mean reaching for perfection or striving for some superficial mold we put on ourselves. This is about expecting more out of yourself so that others will be forced to expect more out of themselves because of your example. Be a leader and show the world that when we take care of ourselves and when we are at our very best… amazing things happen.
What will you do today to raise your standards?