Hey, guys! Today I wanted to do a follow-up to Boden’s birth story about hypnobirthing and how it helped or didn’t help during labor and if it really is pain free. If you haven’t read his birth story, go check that out so that this all makes more sense to you.
Many hypnobirthing moms or forums will tell you that hypnobirthing is pain free while others will say it isn’t pain free just more relaxing. I think this goes to show that every mom has a different experience with labor in general, let alone a specific birthing technique. Therefore, just because I say something is true for me doesn’t necessarily mean it will be true for you. However, I think if this technique is practiced and learned you can have some seriously amazing results.
So was my labor pain free?
Yes!!! I can honestly say that it was pain free. Now before everyone starts to comment and call me some crazy woman who is lying about childbirth – let me clarify. Labor was intense for me. Mine was super quick and a little crazy but it was not painful. I kept waiting to feel “pain” but to be honest it just never happened. I was prepared to feel the “ring of fire” that many women describe and never felt it. I felt him come out but never felt any pain, burning, stinging, or any other sensation besides pressure with his birthing.
So what did I feel?
Pressure and intense cramping. To be able to describe what I felt is almost impossible so the only word I can keep using is intense. Because it was intense. Now don’t get me wrong while there was no pain there was definitely discomfort. I mean I don’t want to be in a state of labor my whole life or anything and it was a lot of hard work. The best I could describe it would be really horrible menstrual cramps. Once I was in transition it was hard to sit still mainly because I felt like moving helped and I had to really focus on my breathing in an effort to remain calm.
So was I calm and relaxed?
Well this is up for debate. If you asked my nurses or my husband they probably wouldn’t describe me as being calm or relaxed. There was a mad dash happening and we barely made it to the hospital so the environment itself did not exactly induce calmness. On the outside I was breathing heavily, talking and growling when he came out – so not sure this is anyone’s vision of calm. However, inside my brain I was as calm as a cucumber. (Side note: why do we say cucumbers are calm – weird saying) Anyways, my subconscious had taken over long before we entered into the hospital and so I was already in a different place in my head. I was able to communicate and be lucid but I was very much detached from what was going on with me. This is where people start to roll their eyes and look at me funny because it does sound a little “out there.” I respect that and totally get how it sounds but quite frankly it works so I don’t much care how many eyes are rolling cause when you’re popping babies out there’s no room for judging. Haha
Number one key to success?
Practice and preparation. I didn’t even have to think about putting myself into hypnosis once the time came. I didn’t have to purposely start my breathing exercises or even think about hypnobirthing whatsoever. It just happened. My body knew exactly what it was supposed to do, my mind knew where to go and how to relax and disconnect and my baby knew exactly how to come out peacefully and easily. I had been training and practicing since I was 17 weeks pregnant and it paid off majorly. If I hadn’t put in the time and effort it would not have gone so smoothly. I contribute everything to my practice and knowledge that I gained. I had zero fear going into labor. I was confident and excited and looking forward to the experience. That alone hands down changed the entire birthing game for me.
Would I recommend?
HECK YES!! I would recommend hypnobirthing to every single pregnant woman on planet earth. Even the ones who will be having c-sections. I believe in it so much I’ve considered getting certified in order to teach classes. There are no classes within a 3 hour radius of me and I think that is a severe need. Women need to be able to look at birth differently and realize it isn’t a scary crazy thing they have to do. It can be such a great experience if you have the tools to make it so. I taught myself and practiced and that alone did wonderful things so I can only imagine what great success would come from hands on classes. I am 100% a true believer and will spread the word until my dying days.
Any effects after birth?
Yes, yes and yes! The greatest thing about hypnobirthing is it teaches you techniques you can apply throughout every area of your life. It teaches you how to relax, manage stress, eliminate fears and guilt. These are things that have helped me tremendously, especially in the newborn days. The music also has a huge calming effect on your baby since they have listened to it so much in the womb. I tried out this theory and sure enough it instantly calms Boden down when he is upset. It’s seriously the coolest thing to watch. Hypnobabies are also reported to be calmer and more easy going in nature and I can also report that that is also true. It’s amazing how one thing can really impact not only birth but life after in such a positive way. When you have 4 kids you’ll do anything for calm and relaxation so it’s all very much paying off right now.
No matter what you decide about birthing your baby, go forward with confidence. Every woman makes a choice based on what is best for them so whether that’s a c-section, epidural or the natural route – enjoy your birth and look forward to the miracle that is about to occur. There is nothing wrong with any of these laboring decisions and in my opinion there is no “best way.” There is the “best way” for each of us and it’s not always the same. So educate yourself, do some research and be confident in your decision (no matter what it is) and relish in the miracle that is creating a human. Good luck, momma!