About a month ago I decided to take a break from Facebook. I didn’t go completely without social media since I use instagram for personal use but also marketing for our business. However, I find Instagram to be a much more positive environment in which I’ve met some really great people and connected with other mom’s who share similar interests. I’ve been wanting to take a Facebook break for a while but never really did until the hatefulness became so insane I needed a break for my own sanity.
Social media can be a real benefit to someone’s life but it can also effect things in ways you didn’t even realize. I’m pretty picky about who I friend and so am not one of those people who has 5000 friends. (Does anyone even know that many people?) Therefore, my news feed is a little less cluttered than some but unfortunately in order to see pregnancy updates, or birth announcements or other big moments in my friends’ lives (these are the things I really care about) I have to scroll through so much opinionated clutter and hatred it’s nauseating.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind listening to others’ opinions and I certainly don’t think differently if we disagree on issues. I’m A-OK with that. It’s when we all end up sounding like some rebellious, pre-pubescent teenager that just wants a reaction instead of educated, respectable and mature adults that I have a problem. We don’t have to agree with each other but we should always strive to treat each other kindly and with some dignity. I understand we all get mad and angry and want to just type until we feel better but that’s when the age old saying needs to be altered to “think before you type.” Nothing good ever came from spewing hatefulness on Facebook.
As for my break I can honestly say I thought it would be a bit of a challenge. I typically check Facebook 2-3 times per day when I’m taking breaks for work so I thought it would be difficult. Let me be honest and say it was not hard at all. I was so surprised. I didn’t think about it, click into it, look at it or anything. I knew that was a sign that I was definitely over the negative energy. After 4 days of not logging in, Facebook started sending me notifications saying so-and-so posted a picture or so-and-so did this just to get me back on. I just removed the notifications and went on with my day. It was amazing how un-tempted I even was. Nice try, Facebook! haha
Overall, I learned two things.
1) Facebook is kind of like being around a big group of people. Sometimes you need a break and some time to yourself to just re-charge mentally and get rid of some of the negativity….and that’s OK. You have to take care of you even if everyone else thinks you’re weird.
2) Facebook does has positives such as being able to connect with family I rarely see and letting them see how my kids are growing. That’s the only reason I’ve decided to come back.
So I feel much better about Facebook life and have decided that sometimes when big events happen that I know will spur anger maybe it’s best to just search for whoever you’re looking for and not scroll through the newsfeed. I encourage EVERYONE to take a social media break at least once a year. It really is nice and you find all sorts of time for other productive things like slobbery tongue smooches!
Happy Friday, friends!