I am a huge reader and always have been. Since the time I was able to read there hasn’t been an activity I love more than to read. I always dreamed of having a reading nook in my home – whether that was my own office or a space with a fun chair and some windows. That dream hasn’t transpired, yet, but it will someday. I haven’t jumped on the electronic book train, even though I’m a lover of technology. For me, being able to hold and smell and physically touch a book is just heaven. Call me crazy, but it’s my thing.
So what does any of this have to do with getting advice? Well naturally the best advice I got was from a book. The sad thing is I can’t even remember what book it was. You would think with it being such life changing advice I could remember but I can’t. It has had such a profound impact on how I think, that I just got so wrapped up in the words I forgot all about the title. I know, I know no matter how I spin it still makes no sense. I probably just have some strange form of amnesia.
So what was this life changing advice??
“Do the things that others are unwilling to do.”
Yup, that’s it. Life changing, right?
Well for me this came at a time when we were starting our own business and on the verge of do or die. Our whole life was on the line when we started this business so this advice came at the perfect time. What’s interesting is that now 2 years in – our whole business is successful because of that exact quote.
We have done the things no one else is willing to do in our business. Most people will not go almost 2 years without a single day off. Most will not sacrifice their weekends for 1.5 years. Most will not work 20 hour days, with 4 kids, without help. Most will not invest every dime they have and take the risk no matter what. Most will not keep going when giving up would be easier. Most would not continue to change, adapt, grow and research when things are zooming right along. Most would not get comfortable or complacent.
This has also applied to our marriage. Being married for 10 years is almost an anomaly these days. I often get the kind of respect/reaction people who have been married 50 years would get. I’m beyond proud of our marriage and I also contribute all of it’s success to this exact principal. We have always done the things a lot of people just don’t want to do. We have taken the time to invest in each other. We have taken the time to have the hard conversations so that we remain on the same page. We have always checked in with each other to make sure we are both okay and satisfied in our relationship. We have always put each other first. We have always had each others backs no matter what. We have worked together as a team to conquer our goals and make new ones. We have kept each other happy by valuing our relationship over all other things. For us, this is important but for many it’s not and that’s okay. I’m not slamming anyone who has gotten divorced by any means. Just saying this is what has contributed to our success.
Me and Jared are not MOST. We realized a long time ago that MOST is comfortable and easy and works for MOST people. For us, we want to be AWESOME and constantly get BETTER and the only way you achieve that is by doing the things others are unwilling to do. That is where the greatest adventures in life are found.
So I thank the author of the book that I can’t remember for giving me this advice. It’s changed my life and made it so amazing!