Dear New Mom,
You made it!! Can you even believe your little one is here? You became a mother as soon as you saw those pink lines (or in this day in age the word pregnant) on that stick a while back. Your body was flooded with all these protective instincts and love for a little human the size of a poppy seed, that it almost took you by surprise. Every day you woke up feeling tired, perhaps sick, a little uncomfortable and you would count down the days until you could meet that sweet baby. You would picture their face every time they kicked and you had endless discussions about what kind of hair they would have … or maybe none at all. Labor day came and you labored…long hours…sweating and in pain and then it was all over. There at the end of that experience was this beautiful gift, this blessing, this miracle that went from a tiny poppy seed to this most magical creature who stole every ounce of your heart in that second. You’ve never held anything so beautiful or done anything more amazing in all your life. You, my dear, are AMAZING!!!
Those first few days of motherhood are by far the best you will ever have. The bonding, the smells, the newness are all so magical. If there was a way to bottle up all those emotions, smiles, joys, smells and magic in a bottle we would all be the happiest species on the planet. Adrenaline keeps your body running through those sleepless nights and you swear you wouldn’t sleep for 5 years if it meant you could just hold that precious human. You’ll try to take everyone’s advice and “soak it up” although it can be so hard when you’re living it and the hours are turning to days quicker than you can even blink. Nevertheless, you’re burning permanent images and moments into your brain so that you’ll never ever forget these times.
I wish I could tell you that these moments don’t fly by. I wish I could say that your baby will always be this small and forever fit into your arms and on your lap. I wish I could say that adrenaline will provide you energy for the rest of your life….cause I assure you once you become a mother you’ll never feel rested EVER. AGAIN. The exhaustion will creep in, that sweet baby will change and become a little more demanding of your time, they’ll start getting into things, and develop attitudes and eventually they’ll start forming opinions and thoughts of their own. CRAP! Before you know it play-dates will turn to school drop-offs and you’ll no longer have to cut up their hot dogs for lunch. Right now, it feels so far off….but it’s not.
This all sounds depressing, but that isn’t my intention. My point is that motherhood is the most amazing journey… but it is a journey. A journey with so many curves and edges and potholes and road signs that are so faded you can’t even read them. There should be a book, a guide, a manual for all the things that we encounter….but there isn’t. Each journey and path is completely our own. Every moment is completely our own. And every experience is also our own. We mother based on our experiences, lessons learned, and with our gut. You’ll never know if you’re right or if you’re doing or saying the right thing. You’ll go to bed most of the time feeling like a failure and like you are unfit and not doing anything right. Then someday, that sweet baby will look at you and say “I LOVE YOU” and nothing else matters. Guilt and worry and stress will go away because that’s what this is all about anyway.
So my new mommy friends…. congratulations on starting this most amazing path. You will be the most amazing of mothers and you will leave a legacy of love and acceptance and through your dedication to your children will make the world a better place. Remember to not walk too fast and look at every little thing along the way. Time is a moment you can’t escape but you sure can live and love every minute until it’s up.
Your Fellow Mommy Friend,